Living your life as au pair in America is for everyone different. For some people it is amazing and for others it is much harder. If you’re considering of becoming an au pair you might want to know how it is to be an au pair. Thats why I decided to interview au pairs and ask them about their experience. This week I interviewed Daniela from Czech Republic, who has been an au pair for two years in two different families, about her experience and she told me some great tips for au pairs!
My name is Daniela Urbářová, I am 22 years old and I am from the Czech Republic. Before I came to the USA I was living on my own, working and partly studying. I came to the USA on July 10th, 2017 and spend my first year in Philadelphia, taking care of one 7-year-old princess. I decided to extend somewhere else because I wanted more experience. So I found a family in Seattle with a 13-year-old boy and 11-year-old girl.
Why did you became an au pair?
I decided to become an Au pair because I felt lost in my own country and myself. I always knew I am a traveler but because I was blindly in love with someone who didn’t care, I got stuck in Czech. I realized I need more in my life so I took this amazing opportunity and left. I knew this will help my English and mostly my soul. Best decision ever.
What do you like most about your host family?
My first host family taught me that I can do everything I want. They gave me confidence and made sure I know I am safe and loved. They will always be my heroes.
My second family taught me discipline, patience, and definitely more English. They showed me how a loving, fun and happy family should look like. My host parents are the most amazing people who repeat me almost every single day that I am a wonderful person who is gonna do big things in my life.
What is the biggest struggle you’ve had so far?
My big struggle was to understand how to work with teenagers. I am a very strict person, but that’s not how it works with these kids. And that’s when I met my biggest struggle, myself. I needed to change my way of getting what I want and figure out what is the best way to meet them somewhere in the middle when we were arguing or fighting. Not an easy task. It cost me a lot of tears and sleepless nights but I reached my goal. I understand them and they understand me in the way that we can make it work.
What is your favorite part of America?
I love, that when you go to a restaurant you get free water, waiters are very friendly and helpful and you always get so much food for an amazing prize. I love nature in the USA. That is something that can make me speechless. I love that you can be whoever you want to be. People in the USA are 100% less judgemental than in Europe.
And what are you still not used too?
What I’m never gonna get used to is how some boys treat girls here. American boys love to “ghost” girl if she doesn’t give him whatever he wants right away. I am never gonna get used the amount of racism that is happening in America. To me, that is absolutely disgusting because we all or the same people no matter what color, hight or religion are we. And I am also never gonna get over the way how Americans raise their kids, not all of them, but most of them don’t realize that they need to make certain decisions for kids and not let them do all of it from the age of a toddler.
What was your favorite trip?
My absolute favorite was the Florida trip with my two awesome friends. We started in Key West and made out a way to Miami. This trip was 8 days long and I think I have never laughed that much. It was just the special bond that is between us, all the new people we’ve met and honestly Florida is the most amazing state I have been to.
Which app is fundamental for an au pair?
There are so many awesome travel apps that every Au pair should use. If you are looking for flights, always look on Tuesday or Thursday. Those days you can find the cheapest flights. And apps like Kayak, Skyscanner, Momondo, Orbitz or Wanderu are the best for traveling. For money, transfer use Venmo or Zelle. For accommodation use Airbnb, Couchsurfing, Hostelworld or booking.com.
What are you going to do when you get back home?
That is a good question. I still don’t a answer myself. I am so excited to see my family and friends who stick with me the whole time. And I am not planning on staying back home for too long. Because once you get used to traveling you can’t stop.
What is your ultimate tip for future and current au pairs?
Be honest and be you. Don’t be afraid to step up for yourself. If you are unhappy talk to your LCC or your family! Because if you don’t tell anyone you are gonna be the only sad person. And you are going to America to have an awesome experience and best time, so fight for it. And also save money every week to a savings account!! As an Au pair who’s been here for 2 years, I know what I’m talking about.
Find Daniela on Instagram: @danculina